Sex. We’ve all had our fair share – and maybe even a couple of other people’s, too. Furthermore, there are many sex positions out there, and some like certain ones more than others; although, the Cowgirl gives a lot of pleasure, requires no flexibility, and is a great workout! This sex position is a favorite of many men but women like it too so it’s great for everyone’s sexual satisfaction.
Being a cowgirl isn’t easy since you must be as strong as a man, act like a lady, look like a rodeo queen, and work like a horse. Luckily, the cowgirl we’re about to discuss here doesn’t have to “act like a lady,” only be as strong as a woman and ride her man like she would a horse … well, kind of … she’ll definitely look like a rodeo queen … only backward.
Ok, you probably already know what the Regular Cowgirl position is but let’s quickly review it as well as why you might want to try it.
Regular Cowgirl Position and Variations
As we said above, this position is a favorite of many men, and this is understandable. What’s there not to like! Not only does it provides a great view of your woman’s body from below, but it also allows her to be in full control of the rhythm and speed of your sexual encounter. She’s also in control of where and how hard you hit the region of her internal clitoris. Thus, she might tilt back or forward and control the depth of penetration and potential G-spot stimulation, which takes a huge load off you – well, it’s only a few spurts but it often feels that way.
The way this position works is you basically lie on your back while your lover straddles you. Her knees and shins are pressed to the bed, kind of as if she was riding a horse – hence the name. While it’s true that your job gets a lot easier when your lover climbs on top of you during sex, it doesn’t mean you should just sit back and relax so, giddyap horsey! Time to be ridden like the raging stallion you are! There are many things you can do here. For example, you can thrust, play with her clitoris, touch her breasts, and … you get the picture.
Another thing you could do is change up how she rides you. Indeed, the cowgirl position is wonderful but will eventually get boring if you do it the same way every time. You can tweak your partner-on-top position a little and here’s how.
Squatting Cowgirl
This position is similar to Cowgirl except your lover doesn’t straddle you; instead, she keeps her soles planted on the bed and thus, in a squatting position. This is a great one if you like her on top but want more control of the speed and motion. In other words, you can actually grab her butt and thrust deeper.
As you can imagine, this position isn’t a big deal for younger people but can be more difficult and tiring for those with knee problems. This is why you must do what you can to help with a little lift and thrusting from below. In turn, she could make it easier on herself by using her upper body as much as possible so as to reduce the strain on her legs.
Reverse Cowgirl
This is the actual subject of this article so we’ll quickly describe it here and then explore it further below. The position is also about having your lover on top like in the Classic Cowgirl but facing your feet. Yee-Haa, why are your shins so bony, horsey?
This position offers great mobility, depth, and comfort and it’s a lot more resistant to slipping out as there’s not too much lateral movement. Don’t do it for too long as you could end up sore. On that note, make sure the rider is as gentle as she can be. Those things can break, you know? She can decrease the force and rest a bit by placing her hands on your legs. Well, don’t worry, her view isn’t as great but yours is spectacular. So, whatcha gonna do with all that junk inside that trunk?
Leaned-Back Reverse Cowgirl
This position is also known as Crab, Crabby Rodeo, and Italian Chandelier (a little more classy, huh?). It’s a standard variation of the Classic Cowgirl family in which both partners align the same way.
It begins just like reverse cowgirl but then your lover leans all the way back with her back against your chest and her forearms resting on your sides. She’ll need loose quads in order to pull this off. It’s a great position if you want to cup her breasts and play with her clitoris. In fact, you can hit multiple erogenous zones at once and even look at her face if you do it right.
Note that this posture is rather strenuous for a woman so do your part by lifting her hips as you thrust from below to increase penetration range.
General Notes
Many sex positions are complicated and some can even give a woman cramps but not the Cowgirl. This is because she has the exact level of penetration and angle. This isn’t only painless, but her satisfaction is guaranteed as this position allows for the perfect amount of clitoral stimulation.
In addition, she gets to show off her moves and skills and grind as much as she wants. You’re in control of your partner’s pleasure too. Taking charge in bed is a boost to any woman’s confidence level. Not only that, it’s great sexercise as the grinding, and pretty much the entire act, in this position helps her burn lots of calories. Watch her sleep like a baby after she finishes her ride.
So, the position can be exhausting but it’s actually quite easy as it doesn’t require too much stretching or flexibility.
Reverse Cowgirl: What It Is and How to Do It
You must agree that backward riding is awkward. Besides, it’s quite unfair to women. How so? Well, men get to see beautiful bouncy butt cheeks while women mainly get to see dull skinny legs with socks still on (please don’t be that man!).
Other reasons why women might dislike Reverse Cowgirl are because the position is sort of athletic and requires a lot of leg strength and balance. Also, it isn’t very personal and makes women feel bad about the pedicure they should’ve had a few weeks ago. In addition, it doesn’t hit any of the right spots for them, especially those who like to look at their lover’s face. In fact, if you give a woman a choice, they‘d rather do doggy style because it feels way better. Finally, some find it yucky to feel muck shooting over their bum.
What Women Think
Of course, not every woman hates it although those who’re willing to do it do so for selfless reasons like: “I’ll do it now and then if my partner wants;” “the thought of my husband looking at my arse and getting a good view of the penetration as I ride him is a turn-on;” “in general, it feels like something you do in order to say you did it. Not because it feels natural or amazing but more like an achievement in a video game: 250 Awesome Points because you found all the robin’s eggs on level 27. Congrats!”
In contrast, there’s definitely the odd “selfish” woman who likes it because she has more control over her orgasm and can reach down and feel each testicle on her fingertips and even give them a little squeeze. This kind of woman saves her favorite part for last. Once you’re done she simply scoots her bum back and buries your mouth into her and orders you to make her orgasm while you clean up your huge five drop mess. (Note: sorry for the nightmare fuel for those that find tasting their baby batter to be an assault.)
What Men Think
Most men like Reverse Cowgirl because they’re a bit voyeuristic and like to watch their super large papa bear disappear into her dark, wet, cozy cave. It’s even better for you when your fluids begin to ooze out around your manhood (the ultimate achievement). Not only that, your view is spectacular.
As a man, Reverse Cowgirl is quite enjoyable because you get to see your lover’s ass bounce as they ride your horse cock. Watching it go in and out is a great experience. However, as enjoyable as it is, some men say they prefer Classic Cowgirl.
This is because they like watching her face in ecstasy as she takes them inside of her; feeling her hands on their chest, watching her breasts bounce up and down while they hold her by the waist, lower back or squeeze her bum as she straddles them. While you’re at it, give it a little spank, too.
Not only that, they love the way she utterly controls their dick while steering it to her most pleasurable areas. How she grinds down on them, pressing and massaging her clit on their pelvis until she explodes into orgasm. They like looking deep into her eyes as they both enjoy every minute of it. The feeling of bodies pressed against each other when you either sit up or she lays down on top is quite special.
So, What Is It That Guys Enjoy Most About the Reverse Cowgirl Position?
Is it the view or the way it feels inside? Well, there are several reasons why men like this position, and some say it’s mainly the way it feels inside. When a woman does Classic Cowgirl, the vagina or anus kind of goes with the flow. However, Reverse Cowgirl feels more like a sleeve and most of the stimulation comes from the side walls which are also being stimulated and so their muscles spasm.
In addition, Reverse Cowgirl puts pressure on the tip down to the shaft, on the top, bottom, and sidewalls. Thus, it stimulates the muscle at the entrance further. Going reverse gives the same muscle groups a different feel and texture and the person on top can control the depth, speed, and angle.
Other men insist it’s the view. They think one of the sexiest parts of a woman is the small of her back — the point where the back turns and starts to flatten and then curves slightly outward. They find their anticipation building as they continue downward, knowing they’re getting closer to that beautiful peach. This is particularly true in dim romantic lighting where different shading and shadows emerge as you get to appreciate every subtle detail of her curves.
Imagine not only having a static view of such a wondrous sight but one that continually morphs into infinite contortions. However, Reverse Cowgirl is also about what you can’t see: her face. This is because you begin to imagine what it looks like. This is similar to watching a woman wearing lingerie. It’s enticing to imagine she’s just dying with pleasure – even if she’s just looking at your mismatched socks.
Furthermore, the Reverse Cowgirl position is a favorite of nudist exhibitionist couples as it’s a rather explicit way to show themselves. Not only that but the woman can enjoy watching her audience watch her and for the latter, it’s quite exciting to see her being penetrated in all details in a frontal view. It’s special for a man when a woman does most of the work but they also enjoy the openness of this position.
How to Get Her to Reverse Cowgirl Like a Rodeo Queen
Cowgirl, a woman or partner on top, is one of the most looked-up online sex positions in the country but, as we said above, even your favorite moves get stale if you don’t mix things up. Thus, people who like to spice it up are more likely to try the Reverse Cowgirl.
We’ve only spoken about women on top here but there’s something in it for every gender. Thus, if your lover has a vulva, you get access to her clitoris and she won’t be self-conscious about it or her tummy or chest bouncing about. Note that most vulva-bearers need clitoral stimulation besides penetration to orgasm. Despite the position’s name, it’s a great position for vaginal and anal penetration. Hell, try both during the same riding session.
There are countless ways to use sex toys in Reverse Cowgirl position. You can use a magic wand vibrator to stimulate the clitoris of your rodeo queen. In turn, you can wear a cock ring to maintain a strong erection, especially if you sort of feel humiliated about being on the bottom and having a soft time.
As you may already know, many penises angle up and toward the stomach when they’re erect. This is why it’s important for the rider to follow this angle. Doing it the wrong way could hurt the horse, I mean, the man on the bottom. The Cowgirl might want to lean forward and that’s perfectly fine. However, the penetrator should lift his back with either their elbows or pillows. The idea here is to mirror the natural curvature of the penis.
As we mentioned above, Reverse Cowgirl puts the receiving person in control so it’s easier for the dick or sex toy to slip out. This could potentially hurt your equine appendage, so you might want to prevent it by holding the rider’s hips to help control the depth of penetration.
You’re probably not aware of this because you’ve always been on the bottom but this kind of reverse maneuver is a rather strenuous position for the person on top. She can rest her hands on their legs for a little extra leverage and support and even prevent thigh burn. You, the penetrator, can also support her by lifting her rear end up and down. Either that or thrusting into her while holding her butt up with your hands.
Sex From Behind, The Rear End of the Ride
Having sex in any position in which you penetrate from behind is as ancient as primates. Of course, the classy people from Ancient Rome referred to it as coitus more ferarum, Latin for “mating like wild animals.” In turn, the Kama Sutra, an ancient Indian text, refers to it as “cow position.”
Most people know it as “doggy style” these days and many men listed it as their favorite sex position according to a poll. This position is actually the most traditional form of sex from behind and you probably already know how it goes: the woman or receiving person gets in front of a penetrator who’ll penetrate her vagina or anus while she’s bent over or on all fours.
There are many ways to have sex from behind and your level of skills will depend on how flexible and adventurous you are. As you can see, this is the most natural form of sex and you can experiment to find out the best entry point positions. It’s actually a great angle to stimulate her G-spot and you can be in control of the depth of penetration in most of them.
We’ll leave you with this great quote about Don Quijote and his horse, Rocinante. It came to mind for some reason:
With this view, he steered his course homeward, and Rocinante, as if he had guessed the knight’s intention, began to move with such alacrity and nimbleness, that his hooves scarcely seemed to touch the ground.
Yee-Hah!